This morning, as I sipped my tea and looked out at the trees on my tiny porch, I realized something comical about myself: I rarely just “arrive.” I manifest, I create, I ground—and then, almost like clockwork, I’m already dreaming up the next big thing. (I sometimes wonder if my future self is sitting somewhere laughing at me like, “yes, babe, I know, I already built it, now just dance your way here.”)
So today I want to walk with you from processing into integration—that moment when we stop swimming in the swirl and begin to actually embody what we’ve learned.
Here’s my five-step process, mixed with some reflections, a few quotes, and questions for you to explore in your life:
Step 1 – Accept
Integration begins when we simply nod and say, “yep, that’s me.” For me, that truth is cyclical manifestation. I build and arrive, but I’m always called forward again.
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl Rogers
Your Question: What’s one truth about yourself you can finally stop fighting and simply accept today?
Step 2 – Connect
Once I accept it, I lean in with curiosity. I ask my future self, “What do you want for me? What are you teaching me today?” That question opens the door.
“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” – Caroline Myss
Your Question: If you could sit down for tea with your future self, what’s the first thing you’d want to ask her?
Step 3 – Process & Embody
As many of you know, my way of embodying is dance. I let the insight ripple through my body. Sometimes it’s erratic, sometimes it’s graceful, but either way, my body understands long before my mind does.
“The body says what words cannot.” – Martha Graham
Your Question: How can you move, create, or express what you’re learning—without words—so it becomes part of your being?
Step 4 – Weave Inner & Outer
Here’s where I meet my future self more fully. She already lives in the healing home by the water, already welcomes small groups into sacred space. When I picture her, I feel her inner calm weaving into my current choices.
“The longest journey you will ever take is the 18 inches from your head to your heart.” – Andrew Bennett
Your Question: Which inner voice—child, wisdom, healer—is asking to be heard and woven into your choices right now?
Step 5 – Weave Your Narrative
This is the part where I shift my everyday choices. My new normal is saying yes, opening to receive, and relaxing into outcome. I don’t have to force the path. I just have to live it.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw
Your Question: What small shift in your daily rhythm could become the new thread in your life’s story?
Closing Reflection
For me, one way I’m softening my own conflict of desire is to picture a rhythm: traveling to visit each of my children at different times of year, soaking in time with them and my current and future grandchildren—and then returning back to my own autonomous home. That image brings me peace, a reminder that I can have both rootedness and movement, both family and sovereignty.
And so I wonder for you:
What’s one small piece of wisdom your future self is already living that you can embody today? Maybe it’s how you breathe, how you speak, how you love. Maybe it’s as simple as letting yourself exhale.
Tarot Card of the Day – The World 🌍
Completion, wholeness, the full circle. The World arrives when one cycle has been fulfilled and the next is waiting to unfold. For me, it reflects this little cabin in the woods—one dream fully manifested. And it whispers: “Well done. Now… are you ready to dance into the next?”
Unscripted Joy 